So there's this Girl

So there’s this girl…

As you’d expect this kind of story to start, she’s exactly my type:

• cute

• fit and goes gym

• brown hair, hazel eyes, gorgeous smile - you name it

Everything a simple gym bro like me can ask for.

I’ve been seeing her at my gym for ages now. Going at the exact same time as me. Almost every day, at the same time, just like me.

And yet, there’s this tiny, tiny problem that everybody roaming this planet has experienced before - the tiny problem that results in massive consequences of paralyzing fear, deadly inaction, and a feeling of complete and utter ‘stuckness’.

I just didn’t, by my life, have the balls to speak to her in any way - beyond the usual ‘hi’, ‘are you using this machine’ and an occasional 2-3 sentence conversation that you sometimes happen to have in the gym.

Now what normally happens in these situations is the following:

• You see a girl a few times

• You admit to yourself she’s kinda cute

• Before you know it, you haven’t seen her in ages and she’s gone

Not even giving you the time to start overthinking.

But not her.

She stuck around for months.

Hell, I saw her so often I even started to pick up when she had her rest day and what workout split she was on.

And the weirdest part? (at least for a standard self-improvement autist like yours truly) - she seemed into me as well.

So we started playing a game. Eye contact. A slight smile. Maybe a wave, maybe a ‘hey’.

And gradually even my slow-ass brain picked up the only 2 options I had at this point -

1. Do ‘fuck all’ (all but her) forever and never do anything about the painfully obvious tension that had formed for the last MONTHS

2. ‘Just do it’ (and maybe her) after just asking for her name, number, and a coffee combined with a glute training session afterward

I looked at the 2 options.

I accepted the excuses I’d been making.

And so I slammed my head against a wall and proceeded to do something that had helped me previously in these situations like nothing else - pretty cliche but works every time:

I made a bet with a friend.

‘Get to her number asap or die trying’.

Money was involved, but it’s really not about that.

If you struggle with kicking yourself in the ass at the right moments, the best strategy you have is to get a friend on your side that won’t eat your bullshit - at least for me I don’t ever want to disappoint somebody else if I made a promise.

It’s easy to make excuses.

But it’s hard to explain these excuses to others if you have even the slightest sense of honor and dignity.

And so we’re back to the plot - because I was ready.

I know this strategy had always worked. And yes, I know I should have acted A LOT faster using it - I was secretly avoiding it for weeks.

And so, confident in my ability to not humiliate myself publicly (straight lie), I waited.

I waited on a Tuesday.

I waited on a Wednesday.

I even got ill over the next few days and had to skip the gym entirely - only to return a week later and continue the new waiting game I was playing.

But.. no sign of her.

Not for the next days. Not for the next weeks.

At some point.. I just kinda accepted it.

‘This is fucking jokes - NOW she’s never going to turn up again??’

You can’t make this shit up.

NOW.

NOW of all times she stopped going?

Since this clocked inside of me, since I made the bet with my friend, I haven’t seen her again. Ever.

Slowly, the whole thing drifted out of my mind.. until I had to come up with a story for an email.

I’m going to be honest with you:

I felt disappointed, sure. But I also felt like I almost expected it. Like I had deserved to not get ‘that last chance’ - or however you want to call it.

I’d had more than enough chances already to steer a conversation with her in the direction I wanted.

The reasons I didn’t?

The obvious one:

Fear.

But it’s not only about that - there was something else.

Because I didn’t feel like I had to do it now. There was no point in making it urgent. She’d been around for months, why the rush? She’ll be around in the future.

That’s not only arrogant thinking, that’s self-delusion.

By the time I figured I had to go for it, it was too late. Fate, the universe, God decided to say:

Not today, you have a lesson to learn.

So before you make the same mistake as me (and may regret your indecisiveness forever) -

I’ll use this email as the last reminder for my upcoming giveaway:

From 0 → Flow - The Ultimate Guide to Peak Performance

I’ll be releasing it tomorrow, 2 PM CET (that’s 7 AM CST for the Americans) - simply, in 24 hours.

Fucking genius bridge, I know.

It won’t cover how to approach your local gym crush (since I literally have negative business teaching that), but it will show you how to:

• Optimize your daily energy levels

• Save up to 20 hours of time every single week

• Achieve sublime focus and Flow in every single work session you enter

You don’t want to miss out on this one.

Thanks for reading.

See you soon,

Henri

PS: I’ll ping you with a short reminder tomorrow when it launches, so you can pick it up immediately while it’s still burning hot :)